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This is a super interesting perspective. In Norway’s subsidized childcare system, it’s very uncommon and frankly pretty difficult to get a part-time spot, or a spot that changes on a needs-based basis. You technically can send your child part time, but they discourage it and you will still need to pay (in most cases, I believe) for a full-time spot regardless. Which, granted, isn’t very much money to begin with: about €200/month. But there is some debate and frustration around this for parents who work part time or stay home and only send their kid to childcare part-time. I’ve heard that the reasons they discourage it are because it makes it difficult to plan staffing, and also to plan daily routines and activities for the kids. Some days they go on walks and trips, or have organized activities at certain times that make it difficult if kids are dropping in and out during the day. Also, I do think it has to do with kids feeling safe and secure with the same adults, and the same kids, doing the similar routines each day. Of course different families have different needs and it would be nice with some more flexibility. But it is indeed challenging to create policies and structures that meet everyone’s individual needs, so this is an example where in the end they create a solution that works for the majority.

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The city of Hamburg has a network of publicly run drop-in daycares that operates in the city’s public playground. Parents have to register through the city, and have to do a brief period of adaptation to get their child comfortable with the premises and the early childhood education workers, and after that, they can drop off their child with whoever is working that day on a need basis for one to three hours. Families are billed an almost symbolic fee by the hour.

It’s an interesting question, who childcare is for. German childcare is notorious for being very inflexible as far as the parents’ needs are concerned, to center the children. You may have heard of the mandatory adaptation process (Eingewöhnung): when you start daycare, or when your daycare child starts in a new daycare, they have to start with an adaptation period. The first week, parent and child attend together, for a short amount of time in the core of the program (typically 10 to 11 am). The following week, the parent is invited to stay only until the child starts happily playing away from the parent, then say goodbye and leave — but stay close so they can be called back if the child becomes inconsolable. If and only if the child deals with this amount of separation, the time increases: they tack on more of the morning program, lunch, then nap time, and finally breakfast. No schedule increase if the child is too distressed, no schedule increase two days in a row, no schedule increase on Monday or Friday. None if the child has been off sick of course. During their entire KiTa life and in particular during adaptation, they have one designated reference worker who they are encouraged to bond with. Ours brought in a carrier to offer contact naps when my son was struggling to learn to nap away from home, for example. The start date of adaptation is decided by the schedule of this reference person — they can’t have any holidays booked during the process. Only after adaptation is completed, with a documented debriefing meeting, can you start bringing your child to early morning care and leave them for afternoon care after their nap.

As you can imagine, this is a logistical nightmare for a parent trying to go back to work. The very shortest amount of time it can take is 4 weeks. But some particularly sensitive or particularly strong willed kids will drag the process for months — or just kids who happened to be in à separation anxiety phase when adaptation started. You typically use your last month of parental leave to do the adaptation, but what if it spills over? Some employers will allow you to spontaneously take more leave to finish, but unlike the first year of parental leave, an additional chunk is not an entitlement, and it is unpaid.

Other limitations that our daycare puts on families include: no drop offs or pickups during core hours (9 to 2) so as not to disrupt the activities and the stability of the group of children during that time. No partial week. If you are going to pick up your child later than you said that morning, call as soon as you know, even if you are still within the hours you pay for— the children regularly ask how long they are staying and the staff want to be able to answer truthfully. And no breastfeeding on the premises at pickup, as they have found it to be distracting to the other children who suddenly miss their own mother more.

This, in addition to the pedagogies I’ve written about, attest to an attempt at strongly centering the child and their needs (debatable whether the policies are the best, but the intention is clear!), sometimes at the expense of taking the parents needs into account. In that context, I have found it curious when I met a handful of mothers who, because their schedule allows it, prefer to make heavy use of drop-in daycare in addition to a patchwork of babysitters *on philosophical grounds*, wanting to be as much of a stay at home mother as possible — and not using daycare is part of the self identification. As you show very well, there are good and clearly bad care situations for the children. Does it make sense to turn down an excellent one in favor of an unstable one to maximize parental contact?

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